Saturday, February 21, 2009

Valentine’s Day Rebuttal

It has been a week since Valentine’s Day, and over the past seven days I have heard a lot of boo-hooing about this particular holiday. So many people seem to have cynical attitudes about Valentine’s Day! I can’t even begin to tally the instances where I’ve heard someone say that V-Day is nothing more than a marketing ploy invented by greeting card companies…or that it’s a cheap excuse for shallow romance and unnecessary gifts…or that Valentine’s Day is a fake holiday where relationships are irrelevant and women are simply competing over who will get the most expensive bouquet of flowers from their significant others. I even know a particular someone who used his blog to immortalize his opinion that the traditions of February 14th force men to “perform like circus monkeys.”

I acknowledge that Valentine’s Day doesn’t have any kind of firm foundation as a holiday. It wasn’t built around a religious occasion…it doesn’t represent any significant event in our history…and it doesn’t carry any deep symbolism. But you know what? WHO CARES?!

What is really so bad about one day a year where we are all reminded to show extra love and consideration to the important people in our lives? Yes, I know that we should be expressing our love all 365 days of the year and not just on Valentine’s Day. But where is there written a rule that says Valentine’s Day compels you to only put forth extra effort this one day a year and, by doing so, makes the other 364 days obsolete? I know it can be difficult to keep the fires of love burning every single day of the year. We all tend to get wrapped up in our busy lives, and sometimes we forget to divulge the little tokens of affection that are paramount to making your loved ones feel valued and appreciated. It doesn’t mean that we don’t feel those things…sometimes we just need to be reminded of our priorities. And that’s how I perceive Valentine’s Day! What’s wrong with a little kick in the pants get us back on the right track?

I agree with the naysayers about one thing: Valentine’s Day shouldn’t necessarily require gifts or flowers or spending money. I don’t think possessions or monetary rewards represent happiness or love, and I most definitely appreciate simple kindness and sweet sentiments over anything purchased from a store. But once again, where is it written that gifts must be involved in order to celebrate Valentine’s Day?

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, and people can say whatever they want about the triviality and cheesiness of Valentine’s Day. But as for myself, I have a great appreciation for a day that includes lots of extra kisses…heart-shaped candy…listening to sappy love songs all day…chocolate-covered strawberries…free Facebook gifts that you get to digitally unwrap…sparkling cider…colorful little dinosaur cards that say things like “You’re dino-mite!”…mushy romance movies…holding hands…and countless other little joys.

Whether you’re on a date, or with friends, or snuggled up at home with someone…what could possibly be so awful about a holiday that emphasizes being grateful for the people in our lives?

And on that note, I’d like to say…YAY Valentine’s Day! You were good to me this year. I look forward to seeing you again next February.

7 comments:

Courtney said...

Well, I never really celebrate Valentine's Day - my February 14ths usually become "Single Awareness" days. However, I totally agree with your sentiment. There is nothing wrong with a day that emphasizes giving and receiving love. I hope that someday, when I actually have a somebody to celebrate this day with, he will feel the same.

Sam and James said...

I'll always be there for you and Court on Valentines day ... I have enough love to share!
We did nothing this year,no flowers, no cards nor dinner but still managed to have the best day. It's always nice to come home to a house filled with flowers for no particular reason... James did that for me a few weeks ago ...120 long stem roses.... when i asked him why? He said, "I knew it would make you smile"!
Got to love that.

Jessica said...

I love Valentine's Day too. Dave always puts lots of effort and thought into it, and this year was the best. The whole day was so sweet and so much fun, even though I didn't even get a "real" present out of it!

Anna said...

I love the day too. I love to make my children and husband feel a little extra loved that day. And people like you talked about, bug me too, I use to have roommates (not you guys) who would wear black and be grumpy all day, it was really so annoying. Man or no man it was still a fun day for me!

Unknown said...

I'll be your valentine's day rebuttal... and a "performing circus monkey" to boot. I figure i am the 'particular someone' called out in your post, but I want you to know that you gave me the best and most memorable valentine's day ever this year. Thank you for being so sweet and helping shape a new and positive association for this corporate-driven holiday. :P
Your excitement for it is very inspiring. I hope that most of the other 364 days of the year can be considered an extension of Feb.14.

crazy4danes said...

I love Valentine's Day! It's even fun for my son. I look forward to it every year. It's just a feel good kinda holiday! Loved you post! :)

Kristen said...

i agree! i have always been one of those people who have loved valentines day...maybe because i am a sugar addict and it's the holiday of candy and chocolates! :)